Alicia Patten
Jan 4, 2018

Girl Gang.

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Hi ladies!

 

We are Rae-Ann (left) and Alicia (right). We are sisters and the Founders of KAE Collection. First of all, we'd like you to know how incredible you all are for reaching out and showing interest in helping us make this world kinder regardless of how grim it looks at times. The responses have been overwhelmingly supportive and encouraging.

 

KAE is an acronym for 'kindness above everything', You can read more about how KAE was created by visiting the About tab at the top of the page.

 

Enough about us though! We want to begin getting to know all of you and creating an amazing space for you to meet each other, inspire each other, learn from each other, and flourish together.

 

Why do we want to do this, you ask? Well, have you ever heard of the Shine Theory?

 

Read an excerpt below from Marie Claire UK about this theory.

 

It happens all the time. Squished up on a beer garden bench with a group of your oldest, closest friends, you barely notice when one of them puts her drink down on the table; leaning forward with nervous enthusiasm.
‘So, I’ve had an idea for a new business,’ she says – eyes wide and seeking approval while your heart suddenly, inexplicably sinks. ‘And the best thing is, I really think it’ll work. I’ve teamed up with this amazing designer, and it’s totally going to take off!’ You coo over her plans – all admiration and awe and vague, weighted nausea – when someone else pipes up. ‘I’ve actually got some great news too,’ she says. ‘I’m launching a podcast with this new brand. I didn’t even approach them – they hunted me out! Me!’ A minute later, there’s news of a promotion, a pay rise, and an impending industry awards ceremony. The bench beneath you wobbles with the weight of six women standing up to Hug It Out, and you grin at the others over clinking pint glasses and spilt prosecco. A few minutes later, you excuse yourself and head to the bathroom. ‘You’re 29-years-old,’ you tell yourself as you lock yourself in the furthest stall. ‘Pull it together. Stop being jealous of your friends.’
It’s a depressingly familiar scenario – but hardly surprising. Women are pitted against one another all the bloody time.
We’re told that Rihanna is ‘the new Beyoncé’ – God forbid that there would be space for two successful women to coexist in the same industry – and we’re taught to literally elbow one another out of the way to catch a bouquet (/husband) rather than risk ending up entirely alone. We hear that women who are high flyers are probably horrible – and that bitching about them behind them behind their back is definitely justified. And we learn that the gender imbalance in boardrooms is so extreme that there’s only room for one of us to get ahead anyway.
So it’s little wonder, really, if news of another woman’s success is invariably met with claws out (and green-eyed contact lenses in).
But while there might be a million, billion, trillion examples of conditioned competition between women, secretly we all know it’s not where we should be. After all, bolting our insecurities behind bathroom doors might be less socially awkward than clambering up onto a picnic table and screaming ‘STOP DOING BETTER THAN ME!’ But it still doesn’t make you feel better at the end of the night.
Which is why ‘Shine Theory‘ is so importan
Coined by Ann Friedman at The Cut, Shine Theory is pretty straightforward. ‘When you meet a woman who is intimidatingly witty, stylish, beautiful, and professionally accomplished, befriend her,’ explains Friedman. ‘Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse by comparison. It makes you better.’
And she’s right.
Success isn’t finite. It’s not a substance that can run out, or a product that can be used up. One woman’s success doesn’t counteract your own. And when one of your friends is shining brightly, she doesn’t put you in the shadows. She lights you up, too. Success is limitless, and contagious, and something to be celebrated – regardless of whether of not it’s your own.

 

We want to prove the existence – and importance – of Shine Theory. We are committed to finding women and showing off their achievements, passion, and kindness to others online – reaching new audiences and elevating them even further.

 

So! Let's jump in. Here's what we're asking you to do:

  • When you get to this article, introduce yourselves. Comment below with who you are, what you do, your passion and interests, and where you're located.

  • Invite anyone you can think of to be part of this group.

  • Each day, we are going to post a "Question of the day" (QOTD) for you guys to answer each day, to help bounce ideas off of each other, and make your voice heard.

Our hope is to create something transformative with all of you because the truth is that no one can get through life on their own or fulfill their purpose alone and we are beyond excited to get started on taking those around us to the top!

 

Cheers to 2018 everyone!

 

Moments matter.

 

Rae & Ali

 

anitradavis
Jan 4, 2018

Hey Girl Gang! 🤗 My name is Anitra, I am 21 years old, I work at a daycare center as a teacher and is a model during my spare time. I am passionate about God, modeling, acting, children, and serving the world by trying to be the best person I can be while being my true authentic self. I have a great interest in poetry, history, and anything that has to do with art. I reside in Chicago, Illinois and look forward to learning from all you giving & intellectual women ❤

Alicia Patten
Jan 4, 2018

Hi Anitra! Nice to meet you! We look forward to learning more about you! We hope you’re staying warm! Anyone else from Chicago?

sossitytaylor
Jan 4, 2018

Hello Girl Gang! My name is Sossity and I reside in Rochester, NY. I am part of the Operations Team (wearer of many hats) for an urban charter school. I am passionate about making a difference and supporting those around me, growing in my relationship with Jesus and being the best I can be using the gifts that I have been given to fulfill my calling. I love to plan events and bring other's visions to life, live music and spending time with my girlfriends. I am excited to learn from this platform and support those who are a part of it!

Alicia Patten
Jan 4, 2018

Hi Sossity! You’re not too far from us! You are certainly in the right spot. There is much that can be learned from you and we cannot wait to do just that.

claudia3610
Jan 4, 2018

Hello Girl Gang!!

 

My name is Claudia. I’m 36 years old, momma of a princess and two sets of twin boys! I am a Collections Rep for a thriving Credit Union. I love what i do because i break the stereotype of mean collectors, I love using the tools available to me in order to help out members that find themselves in a bind. My passion are my kids! I’m determined to raise strong minded, kind hearted, thoughtful children! And I think I’m doing a darn good job so far :) i love getting to know people’s story and adding positivity to people’s lives!!

Alicia Patten
Jan 4, 2018

Welcome Claudia! We LOVE hearing about your passion and work to break stereotypes! We are huge believers in using the roles we as women have and the places we are to change the environments we are a part of! We each have impact. It's our job to believe it!

 

Well done in raising a kinder generation! Lord knows we need parents like you! The world is blessed to have parents like you. Let's continue sharing our stories and creating a powerful group of amazing women!

Christine Kemi A
Jan 4, 2018Edited: Jan 4, 2018

Girl Gang! Woo! Hey, hey, hey!

 

Hope everyone is doing well! For me, God first, life second. I'm Christine or Kemi 😊 and I work as an IT consultant which allows my love for traveling to grow each day. Not only is my Nigerian, 25 year old self passionate about traveling but sports and food as well. It's discouraging when people try to dismiss my knowledge on sports because I am into fashion and beauty. Trust me, some people won't even attempt to hear what I have to say! "You're such a female" or "You're just trying to win a guy". Can you believe those type of comments?!! Even from my own ladies! I would love to create an outlet for women to understand and discuss the basics of sports with all the fashion and fun that comes with it. I really want to help women gain their confidence back in talking about sports and not worrying about "silly questions" or being put down by others! I am thriled about this forum and I truly believe that you can never stop learning because life never stops teaching! Oh, I laugh...alot. ❤️

toria1127
Jan 4, 2018

Hi! My name is Toria and I am currently working as an AmeriCorps VISTA in my hometown, Spartanburg, SC. I am 24 years old, I love God, creating spaces to talk about uncomfortable topics (racism, sexism, socio and economic disparities) and I am a glass half empty so I love to learn. My passion is doing whatever I can to make the world a better place, specifically by addressing social and economic issues. The tunnels in which that passion has most flourished have been through my two years of serving with the AmeriCorps and the time I spent with the Urban League of the Upstate working on their SIHLE (Sisters, Informing, Healing, Living, and Empowering) program. However, when I grow up I would like to work (BlackGirlsRock) or create a non-profit with a focus on empowering young women of color and taking it all over as I also would like to travel. Though I do NOT want to be a politician, I would love to work in nonprofit that has access to it. I also have the hopes of starting my own t-shirt/clothing line by the end of this year (fingers crossed). And, I hope that as I join this GirlGang that I am able to learn from you all and gain more confidence in myself and my abilities.

Alicia Patten
Jan 4, 2018

Hi Christine!

 

THAT IS AWESOME. It's a weird world we live in world. The world encourages growth yet simultaneously tells us just how far we can acutally grow. People like you are here to change that....boldly. While laughing along the way!

 

 

 

 

I have an an idea! Create a new post! Call it whatever you'd like and get people like yourself in one space to talk about the things that matter. There are so many other woman like you who away from those types of topics for fear of appearing like they are trying too hard.

 

Thanks for joining the conversation!

raeannp
Jan 4, 2018

Hi everyone! Happy new year :) I'm so happy to be part of such an amazing group of women. I'm reading through the posts above and I'm already inspired by the responses and the future of Girl Gang. Let's keep it going, cheers! <3

Alicia Patten
Jan 4, 2018

Ditto Rae!!

Alicia Patten
Jan 4, 2018

Hi Toria, I am right there with you! I never understood how the world has managed to make major topics that literally run our world, a taboo! The only way to get through something is to kindly speak about it. And most importatnly, listen. I think your experience is awesome in showcasing to the world your passion and ability. We plan on getting some people to speak above issues that interest the group so we can all learn best practices from those who have done it before and have done it well!

 

Cheers!

yanceyj0610
Jan 4, 2018

Hello Everyone!

 

My name is Jamielah. I'm from the MidWest but now I live in the DMV. I'm extremely excited for this forum because I've been following the KAE movement for at least 4 years and it exudes positivity and encouragement--energy that leads to prosperity. As for myself, I graduate from Howard University School of Law this year (May 2018!!) and as I transition into "Corporate America" I'm determined not to lose touch with who I am.

 

I believe that many of my fellow conscious and determined friends have yet to understand the value in having women of color in ALL spaces-- even the ones that attempt to shut us out (while they make all the big money! lol). Anyways, I'm still committed to public service. I'm 25 years young and filled with energy. I believe in giving everything I pursue my best go and I love seeing the women around me thrive and absolutely kill it! Although I plan to practice big law for the next few years, I would gladly commit myself to being a part of change.

 

I look forward to getting to know each of you! Thank you Rae and Ali for dreaming up this great idea!

 

Marvelyn McFarlane
Jan 5, 2018

Happy New Year ladies! I'm Marvy and I currently live in Jacksonville FL. I'm an executive assistant in the department of Emergency Medicine Research at a hospital here in Jax. I love God above everything and my passions are brining people together to have fun and connect with each other. I'm also an actress and I love art, music, comedy, and animals. Truth be told though, I haven't felt inspired to do the things I once loved since I Ieft NYC for JAX. I miss my friends and the church community I had when I lived in the Bronx so I'm looking forward to hearing from you ladies in hopes to catch a spark of inspiration. :)

Alicia Patten
Jan 5, 2018

Hi Jamielah!

 

Welcome! Welcome! Welcome!

 

We are wishing you all the best in law school. We pray you have an amazing finish with flying colors! We are rooting for you!

 

We love hearing woman seeking to be a force in their environments. We plan on doing so much with this group of ladies and as long as we keep getting to know each other, we are so hopeful that we can make a splash in a very big way.

 

You’re so welcome! Looking forward to learning more about you! 💛

Alicia Patten
Jan 5, 2018

Hi Marv!

 

We miss you in NY too! Remember that before you moved, God knew you’d be exactly where you are right now. The beautiful thing is that regardless of where you are, you are still Marvelyn and able to do such amazing things wherever you are placed. But I completely understand. It takes time getting into the swing of things. Hopefully we can all serve as each other’s motivators.

 

Anyone else in Jax??

Alicia Patten
Jan 6, 2018

Hi Ladies!

 

I came across this article that I loved because it spoke about women and how and when they knew it was time to work for themselves. Which one is your favorite success story?

 

http://blog.creativelive.com/top-women-entrepreneurs/

 

Xo,

Alicia

Alicia Patten
Jan 6, 2018

Ladies! I hope you’re all staying warm!

 

You all spoke about the impact you’re making within your own circles of influence. What’s the biggest challenge you’re facing right know when seeking to find other like minded women?

 

 

Marvelyn McFarlane
Jan 6, 2018

The biggest challenge for me is that I don't know many people out here in Jax and haven't found a solid women's group with people who share my interest. I've also become a lot more introverted so it's been hard for me to connect with people in general. I don't know where women (especially women of color) around my age get together and I'm currently in a church that doesn't seem to have many young adults.

Alicia Patten
Jan 7, 2018

Hi Marvelyn!

 

It can be hard to be in a new place.

 

Members of the girl gang, do you have any advice for Marv? Also, anyone from the FL area? We believe the internet is powerful. Let’s start making some connections!

 

Xo,

Alicia

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