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'Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable'- Luvvie Ajayi

Everyone has a friend who speaks exactly what’s on their mind. We watch in awe as they release their thoughts (and ours) so effortlessly that it seems like a sixth sense, professing the things we wouldn’t dare utter without reservation. Contrary to popular belief, this carefree lifestyle isn’t as joyous as it seems.

Recently, I’d gotten to a point where I questioned if being assertive was beneficial. Rocking the boat caused people to view me differently and brought opposition from coworkers, family and friends. In the midst of my turmoil, I was reminded of Luvvie Ajayi’s TED talk, “Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable.” Author, speaker and activist, Luvvie Ajayi deems herself a “professional troublemaker” and shares with viewers why discomfort is the key to freedom.

Take heed of 3 life lessons I’ve learned from her talk:

1. Comfort promotes stagnancy

Exploring new alternatives can make us tremble with uncertainty because we don’t know what’s coming next. We aren’t in control of how situations will pan out nor how our messages will be received. However, reaching for our security blankets will result in a paralysis we can’t recover from. While comparing 'speaking her truths against unjust systems' to 'overcoming her fear of skydiving', Luvvie states, “I realized comfort is overrated. Being quiet is comfortable. Keeping things the way they’ve been is comfortable and all comfortable has done is maintain the status quo. So we’ve got to become comfortable with being uncomfortable by speaking these hard truths, when they’re necessary.”

This sentiment speaks to every area in our lives. If we are not called to say a hard truth, it may require 'doing' a hard truth like leaving a career that isn’t challenging. Either way, one step forward towards your purpose is better than three steps backwards in regret.

2. Assertiveness is a priority, not a burden.

It took me a long time to realize that standing up for myself didn’t have to be a grand gesture. Exercising my worth could come in a variety of ways including taking a break for a few minutes if I’m stressed or simply saying no to the things I cannot or do not want to do. But if something major ever presents itself, the responsibility to speak truth to my power still stands regardless of someone else’s opinion.